We went to club on holidays to socialize with friends and I ran across her former classmate, who married long ago, but seems not to be happy in marriage though not always admits it. The reason for it is her husband abusing her verbally so often that she does not feel loved and cared about. She understands that this is not right, but still considers it acceptable because she is in much better situation than many Russian wives who are beaten by the husbands.

Her Vladimir, like she says, will never hurt a fly, and this looks especially strange, taking into account, that she is constantly morally abused. He nags, calls her bad names, I know the guy, he studied in the same school with us, but I never dealt with him personally. Being a psychologist, I offered her help, but she seemed to be a bit embarrassed. We were the classmates, but not close friends. This is what we discussed with girls going back home by car. All of us at least agreed that this is abuse, so there are no girls among us who considers that such things are natural. Why is it so bad? - you will ask. It is not permissible, because it undermines the self-worth of the person. With time person starts believing that this is really so.

Verbal abuse must not be endured. It not better than physical one, because also leaves the scars though they are not seen and you can not demonstrate them as a proof of being a victim. If all Russian ladies agree that they inflict the same damage and will protest against it, then there will be less abuse of both kinds. Lifetime scars can remain not only on the bruised body. It is obvious. Emotionally abused Russian bride or Ukranian woman is not able to create healthy emotional atmosphere around, is not able to raise kids, because does not have a healthy psyche, so this is already a psychologically crippled personality.

lg-addthis-en What Russian ladies think about abuse.